Written by Florence Mary On June 5, 1994.
In the experience of our lives lies the lessons of growth and purpose. Within the tangle of hurts and joys, sorrows, victories and failures, lies a map for the physical mind to see if it would but look through its pain, to its true reality. Each soul who enters into life has within it the strength of will and of mind to see clearly without attachment to its circumstances and emotions. Each one, who believes that living through emotions is correct, finds life burdensome and without reward. Emotions are warnings and wake up calls, but when one lives through them, they cease to be a reliable measure of where we are upon any moment.
In the way that we develop mental process, either attached to emotion or using it to its potential and fulfilling its true purpose, determines how our lives will unfold. One who is attached to emotion lives a life of circumstance unfolding without the empowerment to direct through intent, the power and beauty of their mind. When using emotion correctly our intuitive natures tell us all what we need to know to survive on all levels of our awareness.
There are twelve levels of awareness. The first within the physical life is survival, within the spiritual life it is growth. So the third level of awareness becomes a combination of physical and spiritual growth that fosters survival. This is what our infancies are about. Within that level are our physical responses to eating and body function. At this level they are simple; pleasure and pain, satisfaction or denial, acceptance or rejection. These emotions are what we use to learn everything else within our lives. It is these emotions that all parents teach children in one way or another to attach their realities to.
From the early days of life, instinctual responses teach us to observe our world. A child cries naturally and without attachment when his speech is undeveloped because it is his only way to communicate. When we allow children to cry for long periods of time, we teach them to be attached to the emotions that arise from not having this call for help answered. At this stage, if the child wishes the company of the parent then there should be nothing more important to the parent than fulfilling the request made by the child. When parents are attached to their emotions they quickly come to believe that answering the requests of the infant, upon demand, spoils or inconveniences them. If you believe that perfection can be spoiled, then look at what you create through the unrealized self. An infant is perfection of balance.
Each of us who comes to believe in the reasoning of only mental capabilities, usually find themselves in emotional states when children are born with deformities or anomalies of perfection. Each state of perfection and choice has balance within it. Each is a choice to learn self and the world at large through that particular state of perfection and circumstance. That does not mean that we look at children with birth defects and throw our hands up and say, “karma”, but rather that we do what we have done and find ways for these children to be all that they can be. If we can be unattached to the outcome of the child’s life through emotion, then we can find within us the capacity to love truly.
You are probably wondering where emotion plays a part. When a child walks into danger, fear and anxiety tells us to snatch the child from danger, this is a normal and natural response. But to take a piece of perfection and heap abuse upon it, through physical and mental torture, is emotion out of control and fulfilling no need within love. Each of us has learned lessons of trust and faith through the parents that we have. How deeply you struggle to know yourself tells how deeply attached to your parents you were, how deeply attached to their parents they were also. Here may lay clues to unlocking the doors to your prison cells. these cells have bars of condition and expectation and a lock that may not be unlocked until the parents have passed from the physical life to the one beyond it.
If you do not search for the key yourself, and come to understand the power of your conditioning, then even when you are freed from parental responsibility, it can linger within your experience as guilt. Guilt is an emotion that comes when we express our need to be other than we are. To be other than you are means that you live or need to be outside the accepted norm of social behaviour and response.
If love were always served within life then there would be no classification of healthy shame or guilt, for we would see that it is a contradiction in terms. Shame of any kind is shame but it is needed within the world of humanity, because we have been conditioned so far from our natural state of being that we no longer know who our essential and perfect self is. Our essential self is that within us that loves. How many of you love? How many of you really knows what that means? How many of you are more familiar with failure, shame, guilt, anger and fear? How many of you still walk on eggshells around your lives for fear that if you break a few eggs there will be no omelette? How many of you see your purpose but cannot fulfill it unless you conform within your life to others expectations for your behaviour? How many of you judge others based upon those expectations and fail to see or understand one who may be their essential self and through fear, need them to change so that you can be comfortable with them? How many of you hate your lives and are trapped within them? If you can answer even one of these questions with a variety of affirmative responses, then you must look deeply within and begin to set yourselves and those around you free. You will best do this by accepting that the only changes that you can make will be within yourself and that those changes may not be appreciated by those around you. Know this and be of god. All unfolds as it should.