A child is a gift placed within our care for a short time. It is a blank slate where we write the story of our lives for the child to act out.
So consider well your acts of love and hate for the child must eat and be nourished by your example.
Be positive that you love him or her and nurture their right to be themselves and to know self-love, for in it lies Gods love.
See not your pain but the joy within the child and allow it to fill you with self-examination.
Make the child not a substitute for your safety or my love, you will always be only his or her mother or father.
So allow him or her the freedom to soar and climb and accept the child as they become who they are, a child of God. Not yours to mold or bend and shape, but to nurture in the way of the child’s own choosing.
Then one day in the adult child’s eyes you shall see wisdom beyond your own for the child has always been free to be itself.
And maybe one day that adult child will give you the assurance you did a good job when they phone to announce the birth of their own child and the cycle will begin again. So the love and the trust never ends.